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Traffic Karma and New Year’s Wishes for All Y’all:


Driving in the car with my son, Henry, last week, stuck at a traffic light, I noticed a procession of cars trying to exit from a marketplace, wanting to join my already protracted line in waiting for the traffic light to turn green. Although in a hurry, I decided to let one of the cars in front of me…and then, to Henry’s horror, another.

“Mom! Why did you let two cars in front of us?” He gasped.
“I don’t know,” I said wistfully, “Karma, I guess.” Henry did not seem satisfied with the answer, so I continued, “You know, if you do something nice for someone, it comes back to you…what you put out into the universe returns to you in one form or another.”

“I know what karma is Mom,” he smirked. “So what – the next two times you are merging into traffic you think someone is gonna let you in?” He pressed, rolling his eyes in disbelief.  (After all, at 16, what doesn’t he know?)
“Maybe.” I responded, smiling coyly.

what goes aroundKarma. Yin and Yang. What goes around comes around. You reap what you sow.  Paying it forward.   I know, I know – you all know what karma is, Mom!  Fair enough.  Whatever you want to call it, though, I do think there is some sort of cosmic balance that must be maintained in an ordered universe. It’s the law. I’m not sure why I think this, other than life experience. It just seems to me that when I do something “wrong” I feel the burn of karmic justice, if not immediately, usually soon thereafter. Ahh, but when I do something “good” for someone else, or just in general, I get rewarded. I almost always know when something is “payment” for a good or bad deed, too. 

In my experience, I have found that the karmic justice meted out is commensurate with the crime, and the goodness earned is generally on par with the good deed done. I believe that the failure to understand this concept explains why some folks will never be truly happy.

domino effectI suppose I should explain that, in my view, karma doesn’t mean that bad things will never happen to good people.  Sometimes, they do, and we may not know why.

And, no matter how nice we are, most of us will never win the lottery. (That really bums me out, I must say because I am, like, really really nice.)

People that commit crimes against others will sometimes get away with it…or so it would seem. I kind of wonder about that one, though. I think that, in general, negativity and evil produces a bitter stew that slowly drowns its creator. The more bleak and oppressive a person’s outlook and demeanor, the thicker the stew that will eventually drown him. I think we can all agree, it’s just bad juju all around.  And probably bad stew.

Whew. That sucks.
But now I’m also hungry.

eating stew

Anyway, enough of this hilarity. I wanted to concentrate more on the positive aspects of karma. I wanted to say that I have noticed,  in my life, at least that:
~ When I decline to be greedy, I get rewarded (this often happens at work.)dollar bill

~ When I give someone the benefit of the doubt, someone else does the same for me.
~ When I put someone else’s best interest before my own, I create a happier existence for someone else, which eventually settles with me.  woman in sun

~ When I let someone in front of me in traffic, who knows, maybe the “check engine” light in my car will stay off until my tax refund comes. Maybe, in fact, I’ll actually get a tax refund this year! Well, perhaps I shouldn’t get too carried away. But, I did let two people in front of me.  Just saying.

So, Happy New Year! Get out there and spread some good karma, bitches!

Lather. Rinse. Repeat.

hands forming heart